Dealing with Butthole Bullies: Keeping Your Sanity When Someone Insults Your Gluten-free Diet

Lady to me, “I wish I could watch you eat gluten and see how sick you get.”

Me to lady, “Um, did I understand you correctly that you want to watch me get sick after I accidentally eat gluten??”

Lady to me, “Yeah it would be fun to watch you get sick.”

Me to lady, “My worst gluten reaction was a seizure followed by a 3-day hospitalization. Are you saying you want to watch that happen?”

Lady to me, “Maybe not quite that bad. I just want to watch you swell all up and stuff.”

I then paused for several moments to imagine myself doing some crazy ninja move on this woman and thereby defending myself. Or maybe even imagining that I was a super hero and she was the super villian…I could have thrown Kryptonite at her. Maybe sent her back to the Phantom zone where she belonged.

I snapped myself out of the fantasy and returned to reality. First of all, this woman is a BULLY. Second of all, she definitely doesn’t understand Celiac nor does she have any sort of respect for anyone else’s well being. Folks, usually my first reaction to a confrontation is to CRY. I’m very shy and introverted naturally so when it comes to confronting people, I want to RUN AWAY or imagine Scotty beaming me away. But this time I can honestly say that I wanted to turn into a crazed Jackie Chan and beat the snot out of her. But I didn’t (obviously or else I’d be writing this from the back of a cop car). I just sat there for a while and realized that I was dealing with a psychopathic woman who obviously derives pleasure out of seeing people suffer. I don’t even remember exactly what I said to the woman at the end of the conversation, but I do remember standing up for myself.

All I know is that conversation proved to me that even adults can be BUTTHOLE BULLIES,especially when it comes to medical conditions. They think it’s ok to make fun of someone else because of a disability.

Dealing with Butthole Bullies: Keeping Your Sanity When Someone Insults Your Gluten-free Diet

Dealing with Butthole Bullies: Keeping Your Sanity When Someone Insults Your Gluten-free Diet

1. You can stand up for yourself to an adult bully and you SHOULD. What the bully does with your words is their own choice.

2. Remember that sometimes no matter how much you try to explain your condition to the bully, they are going to keep on fighting you with their words and it may not change their mind. You can only do what you can do.

3. Know that you are amazing. It may feel like your world is falling apart, but there is a reason and a purpose why you have the condition that you do. You may be destined to help someone else or to start a blog or write a book.

4. Seek out people with similar conditions. There is strength in numbers.

Be strong and keep on truckin’ people.

Mara Alexander is the Founder of GlutenFreeWorld TV©, a Certified Health Coach through the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, a Certified Health Consultant and a Professional of the Academy of Healthcare Management. She can be emailed at mara@glutenfreeworld.tv

 

4 Responses to “Dealing with Butthole Bullies: Keeping Your Sanity When Someone Insults Your Gluten-free Diet”

  1. Aunt Trish says:

    I’d call her a ding dong dingleberry! Some people don’t know the difference in real life and the “reality” they show on tv. No compassion, no sense I’d have to say I would have no use for them. Sending our love and compassion.

  2. Julie says:

    Mara, I felt a little ferocious myself when I read this today. My Papa used to tell me, “Julie, sometimes you just can’t fix stupid.” When I read your post, that’s exactly what went through my mind. Some people are so bent on hurting others, they don’t care about the consequences. I’m proud of you for not clobbering her (which shows not only your self-respect but also your self-restraint) and for also standing up for yourself and being brave enough to share your experiences with others. Self-advocacy is sometimes all you’ve got when others either don’t understand your condition or don’t WANT to understand.

  3. Rona says:

    Honestly, she really does sound like a psychopath. She has no empathy and possibly no emotions.

  4. Rachel says:

    Agree with Julie, “you can’t fix stupid”! Our lives are full of folks like this. Some people never get it unless the “see” it. I took pics of one episode where the swelling took place. I keep it on my phone for visual aid. Maybe not everyone is comfortable with this, but I find some Dr.’s, even in the ER don’t understand. SO, I’m armed with, this is what happens if you give me meds with GLUTEN, LOOK IT UP “BEFORE” you inject my body, thank you.
    I’m so sorry you had to DEFEND yourself against ignorance, seems we are not alone.

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